The most frequent question I receive is why and how I became a Mistress.

My answer to that question is not as linear as many could imagine.

I could probably write a book about it (and it might be a future possibility), but for now long story short.

If you would ask Me when I was younger what I would like to do when I grow up, I would tell you hostess, travel agent, interpreter for ONU. I would never say loudly what I was actually feeling deep inside of Me. First because I wasn’t exactly sure how to call it and second because living in a society that restricts sexuality and what is sexually acceptable, growing into a sexually powerful Women is something you simply can’t desire. Being shamelessly powerful doesn’t match with society expectations for Women. But I knew that sexuality was such a powerful tool.

I worked for years as a sexuality professional, facilitating transformative experiences for people who were struggling with their sexuality or those who just wanted to explore more deeply their desires. You can read more about My professional background.

But I knew there was more for Me. That part of Me that yearned for control and power. My own sexuality that wanted to be fully expressed. And BDSM was an essential part of it. I could repress it or I could allow it to fully bloom.

Guess what? I reclaimed the full bloom for Me.

From being a lifestyle Mistress to becoming a Pro-Domme was just a matter of time. Because I love transforming My passions into My work.

These are some of the reasons behind My choice to become a professional Dominatrix.

#1 I love to facilitate unique erotic experiences and connect with people on a deeply intimate level.

Kink and BDSM allow Me to do that in a way that doesn’t feel limiting for Me. I have always felt that sexuality is much more than what we have been told. (you might have different experience, but most of us have been raised with no sex ed and even more unusualy with cherishing the different sexual expressions.)

Kink and BDSM is an infinite playground that allows us to be creative to explore the most deviant desires, but also to create deeply profound relationships based on trust, love, and consent.

I draw an immense pleasure of being the vehicle of acceptance or the means between denial and permission.

#2 I love to allow people to put away all the masks and allow them to be raw and authentic in their being.

We already wear masks in our everyday life, I love to allow people to remove them and be the authentic version of themselves. I feel pure joy when I see a person get undressed show up in front of Me and say this is who I am, this is what I like. Giving them the opportunity to be seen, heard and expressed is the greatest gift I can give them.

Seeing people opening up and blooming into the most authentic version of themselves gives Me a lot of satisfaction. Many times it is just for the time limited to O/our session, but many times this translates also into their everyday life.

#3 I love to be in control!

Because power is hot! I have always known it, but only a few years back I finally understood how exactly I wanted to be in control.

Someone’s turn on is to lose control( yes, those of you wishing to play with Me), Mine is to have control. There is nothing more erotically compelling to feel the power I have over you when I’m in control.

Power differential creates a wonderful sense of mystery and distance which allows an intensely connected experience. BDSM is the eroticization of power.

#4 I’m deeply curious and I love to learn.

My curiosity is insatiable especially when it comes to human sexuality. And being a Dominatrix offers Me multiple opportunities to dive into the multifacetes of sexuality and sexual expression. And I can learn so much from the privilege of playing with multiple partners.

I have always sustained that even the most experienced players have something to learn. I approach my work with great humility and never presume I know it all. Which is what I believe allows Me to connect with people on a deeper level and allows Me to open space for curiosity. Losing curiosity is for me losing the creative spark and is for Me the direct way to boredom.

#5 I love to use My power for greater good.

As a professional Dominatrix I merge My interest and passion for the BDSM craft with My dedication and interest for creating genuine connections, which helps also those on the other side learn how to do that.

My desire as a Dominatrix both personal and professional is to help in even a tiny way to give the BDSM its rightful place into mainstream culture. Kink and BDSM have long been pathologized and stigmatized, but fortunately the situation is changing in the last few years.

I’m surrounding Myself by other powerful Women with the same desire and I can see how much visible and invisible work is being done to eliminate the stigma that surrounds BDSM and sexuality in general.